Parents who are separated or divorced may find giving gifts a bit challenging. Divorce is a hard cookie and it's sometimes difficult to know what to do and when with kids. Things change after divorce and once-married Alabama residents who are now living single lives again may need some pointers on how not to let gift-giving turn into a forum on how former spouses can outdo each other. That is not in the best interests of their children.
It can be especially difficult for children whose parents are barely talking to each other at all. That can cause undue stress in children, especially when they are asked by each parent what they would like for their birthdays or for Christmas or other special occasions. Often some of these gifts come with string attached that can make children feel incredibly guilty. For instance, one parent might buy the child a toy, but insists it can't be brought to the other parent's place.
Parents must learn to put their feelings on the back burner when it comes to their kids. Even if they can't stand to be in the same space, they need to find a way, especially when it comes to giving presents since kids put great stock in that. Adopting a no compete attitude may be the best decision. And once the gift is given, let it go. It doesn't matter if the kid takes it to the other parent's place.
Perhaps having a solid parenting plan may help to diffuse these types of situations when it comes to kids of divorce. An Alabama lawyer may be able to help in this account. A compassionate lawyer may be able to offer sage advice or provide the names of professionals who may be able to help such as family therapists.