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Children benefit when divorcing parents bury the hatchet

Couples going through a divorce in Alabama may wish to spare their children the pain of high conflict in divorce. To do so, these couples should be willing to prioritize their children’s well-being over their egos. Going through a divorce in a civil manner may have long-term effects for the children caught in the middle. Parents should act maturely in resolving disputes with their ex-spouses.

The key to relating amicably to an ex-spouse after divorce involves examining the past marriage and the factors that led to its breakdown. Each spouse needs to identify the root cause of past disputes and learn new ways to communicate with the other. By studying past behavior, divorcing couples can learn to anticipate potential disputes and stop them before they occur.

Both parents must avoid escalating arguments and actively work to prevent inflaming tensions with their ex-spouse. Each parent should be able to recognize circumstances that trigger their anger as well as their spouse’s. Although it may be tempting, each parent should resist the urge to seek revenge against their ex-spouse. Also, each spouse should take care to recognize their triggers and to leave the situation when they believe they are unable to control their emotions. Therapy can be effective in teaching divorcing parents to interact amicably with each other.

An experienced divorce attorney may assist a divorcing individual both during the process of divorcing and thereafter. Before the divorce is final, a divorce attorney might assist in developing parenting plans and custody arrangements as well as negotiating child support, alimony and the division of property. After divorce, having legal assistance may be in the event that their conflict escalates.