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Strong co-parenting can help children adjust to a divorce

When Alabama parents end their marriage, their children may wonder whether they can still go on loving both of them or whether they did something to cause the divorce. Each parent should make an effort to encourage the child’s relationship with the other parent and should reassure their children that the situation is not their fault.

Children may also feel as though they have to choose between their parents. If parents can spend holidays together, this can help children adjust. Even if this is not possible, parents should get used to being at some events at the same time since occasions such as their child’s wedding and graduation will only be held once. Children should also feel like they can talk to one parent about frustrations with the other parent. Parents should treat this as they would a conflict the child is having with any other family member or friend instead of letting their own emotions affect their reactions.

It can be confusing for a child to be allowed to play a certain video game at one parent’s house but not the other or who faces mismatched parental expectations in other ways. While it may be challenging, if parents can agree on consistent rules between their households, their children will benefit from the structure.

Negotiating child custody and visitation can be a difficult part of the divorce process, but if parents are able to do it without going to court, they may find that this lays the groundwork for a more functional co-parenting relationship. Their attorneys may be able to help them with this process. However, even if parents have gone through litigation, they can still work together In family court, a judge makes a decision based on the best interests of the child, and it may help parents to focus on this as well.

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