The most common custodial arrangement after a divorce is joint custody, and there is solid research showing that this is the most beneficial arrangement for children. After all, even if the parents divorce, it is important for the children to have both parents in their lives.
However, it is not uncommon for parents to have an acrimonious relationship after a divorce. This can make joint parenting seem like a nightmare. For this reason, many dream of sole custody of their children. However, this is not likely. According to Findlaw, the only time the courts award sole custody in the modern courtroom is if there is evidence of addiction or child abuse on the part of one parent.
What is the difference between visitation and custody?
Even in a sole custody situation, it is common for the non-custodial parent to still have visitation rights. The difference between custody and visitation is substantial. In a sole custody situation, one parent holds both legal and physical custody of the child.
Legal custody refers to the rights a parent has to make decisions on behalf of their child regarding religious matters, education, and health concerns. Physical custody is where the child lives. So in a sole custody situation, one parent makes all decisions on behalf of the child and the child lives with that parent.
Visitation is merely when the non-custodial parent legally has time with the children.
How can I make co-parenting easier?
It is a good idea to focus on the benefits co-parenting brings your children. Even if you find interactions with your ex difficult, putting the children front and center to your exchanges can help make the situation more professional and less personal.