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How can my behavior affect my divorce?

On Behalf of | Jun 23, 2020 | Divorce

Going through a divorce is stressful, no matter the circumstances. This stress can lead to you losing your cool when it comes to your ex, either due to disputes about divvying up assets or because of custody issues.

Even if you are justified in your frustration, bad behavior will negatively affect the outcome of your divorce. Here are a few things to consider if you are navigating a divorce and are having a hard time keeping it together.

Child custody issues

When parents file for custody, the court looks to make a decision that is in the best interest of the child or children at the center of the custody battle. In most cases, this entails a child having a healthy, loving relationship with both parents. If you frequently bad mouth your ex in front of your kids, or if you use your kids as a bargaining tool during the divorce, the court may consider you to be combative. This may result in your ex being awarded sole custody, while you will receive visitation.

Financial issues

Particularly heated divorce cases can lead to one ex-spouse contacting the other at his or her place of work. This can have multiple effects; if the spouse loses the job because of your actions, any alimony or child custody payments you receive will obviously be impacted. And, like the above example, continuous harassment also creates a poor impression of your character.


At the end of the day, the more amicable you and your spouse are to each other, the easier it will be to untangle complex divorce topics. When you are willing to work together, you are both more likely to receive an outcome that is favorable. You are also bound to experience far less stress than if you are constantly bickering. While it is definitely a challenge, keeping your cool is often in the best interest of all involved.

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