Getting a divorce can change the lives of everyone involved. If you and your former spouse have children, then things can become more complicated.
While the two of you may not agree on everything, setting aside your feelings and creating a co-parenting plan can help you reduce friction regarding parenting styles and custody arrangements.
Having your children adhere to a similar set of rules can minimize disruptions whether they are with you or your former spouse. Your co-parenting plan should outline expectations regarding education, discipline, rewards and curfews. A clear set of rules can help children cope with divorce.
Try to conduct serious conversations regarding your children privately whenever possible. If a disagreement occurs, try to resolve the issue in a way that benefits your children. Keep the lines of communication regarding your children open to avoid surprises.
Should it be difficult to communicate in person or through phone calls, you could consider sending emails or text messages. If necessary, you can use those messages to create a communication log.
Establish a routine
Children benefit from having a consistent routine. Depending on your custody arrangement, children may have trouble figuring out what to expect. Even if visitation times vary due to work or other obligations, when children know that they have the same basic routine at both houses, it can help them adjust.
Although you and your former spouse no longer wish to be a couple, working together to create an effective co-parenting plan can help your children adapt to the new situation.