Children of divorce may have a hard time adjusting to their parents living in separate households. They may also struggle to get comfortable switching between having two addresses.
Parents provide tips for divorced parents to help children adjust to their new living situation. The right words and actions may help a child make a successful transition.
Create a familiar space
Children deserve to have points of familiarity in both homes. Parents may work together to decide which special items, toys or decorations to have at both their houses. Children may also have a specific item they take with them while traveling between households.
Involve the child
Parents may make their lives easier by including their children in the conversation. Asking them how they want to decorate their room in either household helps them explore and enjoy independence. This also better ensures a child gets what she or he needs to feel safe and happy.
Do not compete
Divorced parents may feel the urge to try to one-up each other. One parent may try to outspend the other on room decorations. No matter how a child may rave about how much she or he enjoys her or his room at one parent’s house, kids often benefit more from familiar and comforting spaces.
Have a packing plan
Children may quickly tire of packing and unpacking for two households. Parents may help ease some of the stress by creating a packing plan. Knowing what to pack and when to pack it better ensures a child does not forget anything and both households have everything the child needs.
Children of divorced parents have a lot of new ground to navigate. With their parents’ help, they may soar through life no matter which parent they stay with.