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Take a united front when telling kids about your divorce

On Behalf of | Nov 11, 2021 | Divorce

Deciding to get a divorce is not an easy decision for most couples. If there are kids involved, this decision can be even more difficult, and you may be dreading telling them.

No matter how old the children are, they will each have a reaction to the news, and they may all react differently. When it comes to telling them, there are certain pointers that will help them better cope with the idea that the two of you will no longer be together.

Show a united front as parents

According to Psychology Today, children will feel safer and more secure if you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse tell them together. Let them know you both love them very much and that it is not their fault. Acting as a team at this point will help lay the foundation for the future.

Leave fault out of the discussion

Kids do not need to know exactly why the marriage is over. Even if it was the fault of one of you, do not share that information. Try to explain it in a more general sense and, again, reassure them it is not because of anything they have done.

Give a general explanation of what will happen

Children will react better and transition to the new living situation easier if you let them know what will happen in the near future. Tell them which parent is moving out, if they get to stay in their current school, that they will still get to see their friends and that they will be able to spend time with both parents.

Address all questions and accept emotions

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, allow your children to have emotions when they hear the news. They will also have many questions, although they may not ask them right away. Answer them the best you can in an honest way and give them space to process the information if they need to.

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