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What do you know about divorcing a gaslighter?

On Behalf of | Nov 6, 2021 | Blog, Divorce

Rather than a collaborative or antagonistic divorce, you want information about divorcing a gaslighter. For years, your spouse unraveled your trust in your perceptions, words and thoughts. You feel divorce offers the only way to regain your sanity and your life, but you want to protect yourself.

Psychology Today offers insights about ending a marriage with an emotional manipulator. Find out how to make a clean break from a sullied union.

Work with a mental health advocate

Consider seeing a therapist experienced with treating gaslighting victims. Being in a relationship with a manipulator comes with unique challenges, but those obstacles may multiply when combined with the psychological effects of divorce. A therapist may help you make sense of your thoughts and feelings and regain your sense of agency.

Keep your decision to divorce a secret

Maybe you have yet to tell your spouse you want a divorce. If so, keep your decision a secret for now. Dissolving a marriage involves making a lot of decisions, and you want to make choices based on sound judgment, not fear a manipulative person whispers to you. Another reason to not tell your spouse until later is to avoid unnecessary harm or the threat of harm.

Take legal action

Depending on your current situation, you may need to take measures to protect yourself. For example, you may need to file a restraining order if you do not feel safe around your emotionally abusive spouse.

You deserve a life surrounded by people who uplift you rather than make you doubt yourself. Divorcing a gaslighter often involves treading carefully and taking the right precautions.

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