When you make the decision to split from your Alabama spouse, the choice may impact more than just you. If you and your ex have children together, you may also need to consider how the split might impact them moving forward. Not all divorces have to be contentious, and if you are able to avoid yours being high-conflict, your kids may benefit because of it.
It is also worth noting that, if the relationship between you and your former partner is already quite acrimonious, it may benefit your kids more for you to split than it would if you were to stay together but remain at each other’s throats. In other words, it is more the degree of conflict, and not the decision to split, itself, that causes most of the emotional turmoil.
How conflict impacts kids
Studies show that family conflict, and in particular, a conflict between parents, has the potential to impact your child’s mental health in a negative manner. For example, it may make your child more prone to anxiety and depression. It may, too, impact your child’s ability to adjust to life changes or succeed in school. It may also have an effect on your child’s future romantic relationships or self-esteem.
How to reduce conflict in your split
Many divorcing parents find that creating and sticking to a parenting plan helps reduce conflict and improve their co-parenting relationships. You may also want to ask yourself if a less-contentious form of divorce, such as collaborative divorce, might work in your situation.
You may also find it beneficial to work through your own emotions about your divorce with someone while it is ongoing, such as a therapist.