After a complex or high-conflict divorce, it can be challenging to continue communicating with the other parent. You may have bitter feelings towards each other, but you still must put the kids first.
Preserving the bond between both parents should remain a priority. Unfortunately, if your spouse disagrees, he or she may devise a way to damage your relationship with your children. Your ex may seek to alienate you from your kids.
Signs from your ex
Your ex may try to limit the time you have with your kids. Some parents manage this by defying direct court orders. Others try to plan fun events during their ex’s time with the kids to pull the children away from their other parent.
The other parent may talk about you around your kids and ask questions about your personal life. An alienating parent can make up lies and false accusations or involve kids in adult problems they should not know of.
Signs in your children
Your kids will want to push away from you. They may express guilt when they have fun with you and ask you not to tell your ex. Additionally, they may always be angry with you. While all kids experience anger towards their parents, especially after a divorce, your kids will only express anger. They will regard you with negative emotions; nothing you say can change their feelings. When referring to the other parent, they will only have nice things to say in response.
Parental alienation can be a form of child abuse that you can fight through the court system.